Andrea Silenzi speaks with friends, experts, guys in bars, and her own Grandma Phyllis about where love and sex meets technology.
April 16, 2014: #20 - Always Say Yes to the Party
Everyone wants to tell you their rules for dating - when to call, when to text, how to leave, when to get naked - but most of those rules are crap. Let’s do it better.
My guest Holly Wood would love to answer more of your questions over Twitter.
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|Everyone wants to tell you their rules for dating - when to call, when to text, how to leave, when to get naked - but most of those rules are total crap. Let’s do it better.|
After this show, here's what we came up with:
* Always say yes to the party.
* Texting is important
* Contact within 24 hours after a good first date
* Calling is cool even if it's not often expected
* Schedule a week between the first and second date
* Take your time getting to know someone before you binge date
* Don’t rush to make your potential beau meet your friends (or to meet his)
* Don’t obsess over the existence of a spark, just enjoy it when it happens, even if it feels like a chest cold
* The quality of the first date won’t always be determined by the location
* Dinner date for first dates - no way
* Make sure you can see the exit
* Don't overtext
* E-mail is sexy
* Skype pre-dates are acceptable, but give a good reason why
* Leave your phone in your purse or pocket
* When you realize it’s wrong, be human and empathetic -- don't be a dick
* Own the awkwardness. (It's always awkward.)
* Follow Dan Savage's campsite rule -a first date should never be damaging to someone's self-esteem
* White lies are an OK exit strategy
* If you feel it won't work out--play up the reason why during the date--eg. if he hates vegetarians, don't pretend to eat meat.