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Options February 21, 2018: Femsplaining

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Interview with Kasia Urbaniak   0:00:00 (MP3 | )

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  Wed. 2/21/18 7:02pm Aaron in Minneapolis:

That opening clip should be used against Andy when he mansplain
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:04pm Aaron in Minneapolis:

Geez will these two chicks shut up
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:05pm BennettCap:

Kensplaining!
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:06pm Aaron in Minneapolis:

I feel so shamed
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:09pm Aaron in Minneapolis:

Sorry if I just got booted from this board
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:09pm Emily:

Hiiiiii Aaron...
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:09pm Emily:

@Bennett haha yes! New term. I will use it all the time.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:10pm kimzilla:

Oh Aaron, how are you today. Feeling ok? See how I changed the power dynamic?
Avatar Swag For Life Member Wed. 2/21/18 7:10pm Dave in Vermont:

can you spell her name ?
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:10pm Aaron in Minneapolis:

He he. Are we gonna have a weird friendship now
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:11pm kimzilla:

Kasia Urbaniak
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:11pm Ken From Hyde Park:

The first femsplaining I experienced was when I was little. It was momsplaining. "But why?" "Because I said so."
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:12pm kimzilla:

Come on Aaron, its already weird!
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:12pm Richard S:

Hello!
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:13pm Emily:

@Ken from HP oh man, guilty—I momsplain to my friends kids all the time.
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:13pm Aaron in Minneapolis:

True. I remember almost starting a riot during hoof and mouth last year making a breakman esque joke
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:13pm kimzilla:

Here is her website. www.kasiaurbaniak.com
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:15pm Emily:

@Aaron, aah yes...the bikini years...
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:15pm queems:

this is so important
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:15pm Emily:

Wait, Aaron, what did you say?
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:15pm Emily:

@queems AGREED
I learned so much!
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:16pm melinda:

Agreed. It's phenomenon that needs to be discussed.
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:17pm Aaron in Minneapolis:

That we didn't need Jews around wfmu. I was referring to the ability for the morning show to raise money. Whoops. Wording is everything
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:20pm JakeGould:

Oh geez, I was late for the badly worded ethnic joke?

Anyway, power dynamics in the workplace are screwed up. Heck a ton more for women than men, but the creepiest part of the corporate world to me is how after some set amount of time—like 3 months, 6 months, 1 years—suddenly co-workers treat you differently. Unwritten rules.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:22pm queems:

i'm going to have to listen to this again later in my headphones so i can really absorb it
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:23pm Aaron in Minneapolis:

Jake next time be on time for the ethic humor ackwardness
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:24pm Emily:

Yeah, geez—we were waiting for you to respond!
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:24pm melinda:

This is interesting. I have found that asking questions, sometimes even only in my head, really is a good way to shift focus away from myself when I'm feeling uncomfortable, it sort of turns down the volume of overwhelming emotion.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:26pm JakeGould:

@Aaron: I accept your awkward Jew-foot in moth jokes as a side effect of bad timing.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:27pm JakeGould:

Foot in mouth. Not foot in moth.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:27pm queems:

i've found that in my experience that a lot of men have no interest in learning how to act better
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:27pm Emily:

@melinda that’s so interesting! I’m going to try to keep an eye on that—I wonder if I do it sometimes and don’t realize. Anyway, I want to try this tactic!
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:28pm melinda:

I like foot in moth.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:28pm ultradamno:

A foot in a moth would be no small feat.
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:28pm Emily:

Hahahahaha
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:28pm Richard S:

Any of the guys out here familiar with the "Art of Manliness" blog?
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:28pm kimzilla:

@queems, the ones doing it wrong are definitely resistant to learning how to change, It's like they want the ass grabbing golden days to stay forever.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:29pm JakeGould:

In an awkward situation actually turning someone’s words back on them as a question is a good tactic.
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:29pm Emily:

@Richard I haven’t heard of that—what’s it about?
Avatar    Wed. 2/21/18 7:29pm βrian:

God story-tellng needs a foot.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:30pm melinda:

Emily I think being highly sensitive drove me to figure out strategies for being more comfortable with people and less susceptible to feeling hurt or insulted.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:30pm JakeGould:

@Richard: Looks like a bunch of hipster “manliness” B.S. to me. www.artofmanliness.com
Avatar    Wed. 2/21/18 7:31pm βrian:

I don't test well, but everyone I tutor tests very well.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:32pm Richard S:

www.artofmanliness.com - It's basically about the lost art of being a well-rounded MAN, like your grandad. A counter to "bro" culture, the whole "Get six-pack abs in four weeks, and have sex with any woman" thing.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:32pm melinda:

The Jason Bourne Situation Awareness feature on that site looks like it might be useful.
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:33pm katharsis:

Hello all
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:33pm Richard S:

I like their philosophical essays. Like their series on the history of honor.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:33pm JakeGould:

@Richard: This seems bro-bullshit: “How to Replace Your Wiper Blades” WOMEN DON’T READ THIS! www.artofmanliness.com...
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:34pm kimzilla:

Hi Katharsis!
Avatar    Wed. 2/21/18 7:34pm βrian:

@JakeGould: Yeah, I never got the sense it was anything but self-deprecating silliness. But well done.
Avatar Wed. 2/21/18 7:37pm Fox:

There are a lot of similarities in what she is saying and the themes in the Malcolm Gladwell book "Blink"; it's all about your instinct, and learning how to train and trust your subconscious, which is absorbing and analyzing in an instant.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:37pm Jeff Moore:

Way off topic:

I keep wanting the plural of dominatrix to be dominatrices.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:37pm JakeGould:

An ad for Capri-Sun on sale at Associated supermarkets just came up on that “Art of Manliness” blog. Just saying!
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:40pm Richard S:

I beg to differ with you about its relevance, Brian and Jake (and they have to make $ somehow; it's a full-time job for them). But that's a matter for another discussion.
Avatar    Wed. 2/21/18 7:40pm βrian:

... and I think it also plays on the sense that a lot of people are so focused on "career paths" that they've never worked in the way that many people work.

So their real-world experience is, in some ways, vicarious — and blindingly identical to the experience of their colleagues.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:42pm kimzilla:

@ Jeff, that totally makes sense in my brain. @Fox,So right, the instincts cannot be taught in HR classes. I don't know how you teach gut trusting though.
     Wed. 2/21/18 7:44pm Listener Robert:

What kind of career paths, Brian, and how do other people work?
  Wed. 2/21/18 7:44pm JC:

this conversation is awesome. thank you!
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:47pm melinda:

Wow
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:47pm queems:

i would go to an event like this
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:48pm melinda:

Me too.
Avatar    Wed. 2/21/18 7:51pm βrian:

It seems to me that people no longer experiment or move from one field of work to another — because of fear, sclerotic thinking? I don't know.

But it feels like the range of work/life experience is growing more and more narrow.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:52pm JakeGould:

@βrian: Dude, there is no stability in the job market. So people are afraid of taking pay cuts and having a career switch fail.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:53pm melinda:

There was much more useful information in the Femsplaining show than in the Mansplaining one.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:53pm queems:

@agreed
Avatar Wed. 2/21/18 7:53pm Fox:

βrian: Sclerotic thinking? More likely health insurance.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:54pm queems:

*@melinda i forgot to actually finish writing your name guh i'm tired
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:54pm melinda:

haha
     Wed. 2/21/18 7:54pm Listener Robert:

Seems to me that there are fewer opportunities to branch off a career path nowadays because so many jobs require, formally or informally, credentials that one can afford to get only with commitment.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:55pm JakeGould:

There’s a lot of painful hand-writing on NPR shows abut why people don’t quit crappy jobs? The revelation is face-lam worthy. Sorry to sound cranky, but it’s like people never needed money for real from a job before.
Avatar    Wed. 2/21/18 7:55pm βrian:

No doubt. And a lot of the folks in charge of hiring want to see the same kind of uniformity that makes them feel comfortable.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:56pm ultradamno:

I just watched Something Wild (61, not Demme) which is rich for that kind of analysis.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:58pm melinda:

Great show, ladies!
     Wed. 2/21/18 7:58pm Listener Robert:

The sort of qualification that employers consider relevant now (or at least their HR depts. do) has become ridiculously narrow and defiant of common sense. Like my friend who was passed up for a bookkeeping job at a spice importer in favor of someone else who'd been a bookkeeper for a spice importer.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:58pm queems:

thank you!!
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:58pm Jeff Moore:

In recent decades I've become less and less able to ignore just how dysfunctional the behavior depicted in so many beloved "love songs" is.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:58pm Richard S:

Another wonderful and informative interview!
Avatar    Wed. 2/21/18 7:59pm βrian:

I guess, I'd just say that if you don't have a diversity of work experiences, your aptitude to respond to a diverse set of challenges wont' be sturdy.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:59pm coelacanth∅:

Thanks kimzilla and Emily
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:59pm kimzilla:

@ Jeff Don't even get me started with the creepiness of some of those love songs out there!
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:59pm melinda:

Nice exit song.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 7:59pm JakeGould:

@JeffMoore: Romantic comedies are stalker dramas.
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 8:00pm Jeff Moore:

Right?
Avatar Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 8:00pm JakeGould:

Every breath you take. Every move you make. Every leaf your rake. Imma watching U!
  Swag For Life Member    Wed. 2/21/18 8:01pm yippie:

ok
Avatar Wed. 2/21/18 8:10pm Fox:

Jake: that was supposed to be about a stalker.
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